So I am home pretty early from work, got our butts handed to us again and had to 86 like 2 or 3 things off of the menu. Not exactly a good thing for a brand new restaraunt to do in this town. Reputation is everything and if we are planning on maintaining our strong customer base then we should be prepared for almost anything and especially on payday weekends. Not to mention the NFL playoffs are on. I havent been a manager per say in the restaraunt market but i have worked in it for most of my life and a few things I know about restaraunts in this town. One. If you start off strong when you first open then slowly begin to lose your standards you will never reach or maintain the sales volume you had when you started out. Second. If its payday weekend you might want to go ahead and overstock just a tiny little bit, regardless of what the past weekends have shown. No matter what, if your a popular restaraunt with a good bar and plenty of tvs, then you can make some killer money on payday weekends. Three. Word of mouth is gold in this town. If you cant back up the talk then dont even open your restaraunt. Granted not everyone will want to eat at your place, but the goal is to get as many people to want to eat there as possible, and so the key markets to focus on are military and sports fans. Our town has plenty of those and any restaraunt that is able to cater to them and back up the hype, will remain a strong force in the market with a wide share of the market share being theirs. So if you havent noticed i've studied business in college, specifically marketing. LoL
So yea on to the topic of my blog. While relaxing in the shower a little while ago I started thinking and in came the thought that when i was pursuing a relationship with someone awhile ago, from the moment she started to show interest I became afraid to lose her. I did everything I could to make sure that this didnt happen. But was I wrong? If I was afraid to lose her from the beginning when there wasnt a full commitment from either of us, should I have even pursued something with her? I am not sure exactly where this fear came from. It could have been spawned from the insecurities I had about whether I was the man she wanted, and if not what kind did she want and how could i become that man. Truth is i should have just been myself from the get go and if she didnt want to be with me then at least we werent in love under false pretenses. I also think the fear could have come from the issues she had going on her life at the time. For privacy on her part I wont go into details but looking at the broad field, could someone's baggage be a reason why we are afraid to lose them? I think alot went into having the fear but in the end we have yet to become more then friends and so now I ask myself, could I have been so afraid to lose her because I wasnt really offering the true and whole me to begin with, and so she really didnt have much to make her say yea this is my man! Things in life are never as complex as relationships, and yet if we start off with truth then the relationship has a better chance of growing and enriching both people's lives, which is the reason people get together in the first place. We know that their is something missing in our lives and so we seek out that missing people in other people. But what are we bringing to the table?
In old days and in some countries still today, if you were a man and wanting to marry a woman, you had to bring an offering or gift to the father and if he found the gift or offering worthy then he would bless the marriage. If not, you didnt have a chance. They looked at the offering as a sign of the capabilities that a man had to support his wife. If he didnt have much then most likely the father would not agree to the marriage. LoL. Sometimes love really just aint enough. So what am I bringing to the table when I find someone that I want to be with, and what is my purpose for wanting to be with them. These are questions that I have to really ask myself before i begin to pursue a relationship, as well as each of us. If we dont ask these questions and have solid answers then the relationship will in some way suffer, and in most cases that I've seen in my life and the lives of my friends, the relationships didnt last and eventually fell apart; in some cases leaving the people so broken that they swore to never love again. So I urge you as well as myself, that if we decide to pursue a relationship with someone then lets make sure that one, we have a solid sense of ourselves and what we have to offer, and that we know why we want to be in a relationship with the other person. If they in some way dont bring positivity to our lives and for me, challenge my way of thinking and seeing life, then i caution to even begin to walk the path of companionship deeper than that of friends. Its a dangerous and sometimes deadly road, and if you arent prepared, it can easily leave you broken and scarred for the rest of your life.
So thats my thoughts on that. leave some of yours and lets see where the road less traveled takes us.
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